I never thought I would be “old-fashioned.” I was the second sophomore male in my high school to pierce my ear. My mom was WAY out there with sex ed for me (she told me it was important to be a good lover in life). And I had an older brother who perhaps numbed my parents into not worrying overly much about me.
But, looking at this discussion, I feel a little old-fashioned. One aspect that stood out for me in the CC report was that nationally there is a shift among young adults away from serial monogamy (date-break-up-date) towards the “hook up” culture. Is this true here?
I don’t see enough students paired off, walking around, holding hands. It is spring…gather ye rosebuds and fertility and all that crap. And when I do see a pair of students holding hands, they do look a little defensive, a little like they know it is an act of defiance in a culture that loves sexualized imagery and frowns on self-limit.
That is all I wanted to say. I think your lives here would be better if there was a little more old–fashioned romance, wooing, courting, and such. By better, I do not mean you agree with me. I mean better in measurable ways. Longer-term relationships will lead to more emotional growth and maturity. They also likely cut down on STDs. They also ut sexuality back in the context of love and relationships and not simply a commodified form of pleasure. In fact, given the burgeoning acceptance of gayness, you all can even improve on the “old” old-fashioned romance model. Have you ever seen two men and two women holding hands in public around here?
And, you never know, you may find a love of your life. I don’t mean “the.” But “a.” Given the freedom to make and break relationships in our society now (which is a victory for gender equality), the new normal should be several “a love of my life”s.
That is all. You may go back to socially constructing the nefarious and cover plot by ‘the man” to strip you of your first amendment right to have fun.” 😉
- A closer look at monogamy and romance in How I Met Your Mother (rhetoricandpopularculture.wordpress.com)
- Microwave Relationships aka Serial Monogamy! (youinbloom.wordpress.com)
- New Sexual Revolution: Polyamory May Be Good for You (livescience.com)
- … Psychology and Monogamy (croppable.com)